Monday, December 20, 2010

Eight Lies Of A Mother

1. The story began when I was a child;
I was born as a son of a poor family.
Even for eating, we often got lack of food.
Whenever the time for eating, mother often gave me her portion of rice.
While she was removing her rice into my bowl,
she would say "Eat this rice, son. I'm not hungry".
That was Mother's First Lie

2. When I was getting to grow up,
the persevering mother gave her spare time for fishing in a river near our house,
she hoped that from the fishes she got,
she could gave me a little bit nutritious food for my growth.
After fishing, she would cook the fishes to be a fresh fish soup,
which raised my appetite. While I was eating the soup,
mother would sit beside me and eat the rest meat of fish,
which was still on the bone of the fish I ate.
My heart was touched when I saw it.
I then used my chopstick and gave the other fish to her.
But she immediately refused it and said "Eat this fish, son.
I don't really like fish."
That was Mother's Second Lie.

3. Then, when I was in Junior High School,
to fund my study,
mother went to an economic enterprise to bring some used-matches boxes that would be stuck in.
It gave her some money for covering our needs.
As the winter came,
I woke up from my sleep and looked at my mother who was still awoke,
supported by a little candlelight and within her perseverance she continued
the work of sticking some used-matches box.
I said, "Mother, go to sleep, it's late,
tomorrow morning you still have to go for work.
" Mother smiled and said "Go to sleep,
dear. I'm not tired."
That was Mother's Third Lie.

4. At the time of final term,
mother asked for a leave from her work in order to accompany me.
While the daytime was coming and the heat of the sun was starting to shine,
the strong and persevering mother
waited for me under the heat of the sun's shine for several hours.
As the bell rang, which indicated that the final exam had finished,
mother immediately welcomed me and poured me a glass of tea
that she had prepared before in a cold bottle.
The very thick tea was not as thick as my mother's love,
which was much thicker. Seeing my mother covering with perspiration,
I at once gave her my glass and asked her to drink too.
Mother said "Drink, son. I'm not thirsty!".
That was Mother's Fourth Lie.

5. After the death of my father because of illness,
my poor mother had to play her role as a single parent.
By held on her former job, she had to fund our needs alone.
Our family's life was more complicated. No days without sufferance.
Seeing our family's condition that was getting worse,
there was a nice uncle who lived near my house came to help us,
either in a big problem and a small problem.
Our other neighbors who lived next to us saw that our family's life was so unfortunate,
they often advised my mother to marry again. But mother,
who was stubborn, didn't care to their advice,
she said "I don't need love."
That was Mother's Fifth Lie.

6. After I had finished my study and then got a job,
it was the time for my old mother to retire.
But she didn't want to; she was sincere to go to the marketplace every morning,
just to sell some vegetable for fulfilling her needs.
I, who worked in the other city, often sent her some money to help her in fulfilling her needs,
but she was stubborn for not accepting the money.
She even sent the money back to me.
She said "I have enough money."
That was Mother's Sixth Lie.

7. After graduated from Bachelor Degree,
I then continued my study to Master Degree.
I took the degree, which was funded by a company through a scholarship program,
from a famous University in America .
I finally worked in the company. Within a quite high salary,
I intended to take my mother to enjoy her life in America .
But my lovely mother didn't want to bother her son,
she said to me "I'm not used to."
That was Mother's Seventh Lie.

8. After entering her old age,
mother got a flank cancer and had to be hospitalized.
I, who lived in miles away and across the ocean,
directly went home to visit my dearest mother.
She lied down in weakness on her bed after having an operation.
Mother, who looked so old, was staring at me in deep yearn.
She tried to spread her smile on her face;
even it looked so stiff because of the disease she held out.
It was clear enough to see how the disease broke my mother's body,
thus she looked so weak and thin.
I stared at my mother within tears flowing on my face.
My heart was hurt, so hurt, seeing my mother on that condition.
But mother, with her strength, said "Don't cry, my dear.
I'm not in pain."
That was Mother's Eight Lie.

After saying her eighth lie, She closed her eyes forever!

What you do to others ..... will be done to you?

Once upon a time in China, a girl named Li Li got married & went to live with her husband & mother-in law. In a very short time, Li Li found that she couldn't get along with her mother-in law at all. Their personalities are very different & Li Li was angered by many of her mother-in law's habits. In addition, she criticized Li Li constantly. 

Days passed & weeks passed. Li Li & her mother-in law never stopped arguing & fighting. But what made the situation even worse was that, according to ancient Chinese tradition, Li Li had to bow to her mother-in law & obey her every wish. All the anger & unhappiness in the house was causing Li Li's poor husband great distress.

Finally, Li Li could not stand her mother-in law's bad temper & dictatorship any longer and she decided to do something about it. Li Li went to see her father's good friend Mr.Huang, who sold herbs. She told him the situation & asked if he could give her some poison so that she could solve the problem once & for all. Therefore, I had given you a number of herbs that will slowly build up poison in her body. Every other day prepare some delicious meals & put a little of these herbs in her serving. Now, in order to make sure that nobody suspect you when she dies, you must be very careful & act every second friendly towards to her, "Don't argue with her, obey her every wish and treat her like a queen." Li Li was so happy. She thanked Mr.Huang & hurried to home to start her plot of murdering her mother-in law. She remembered what Mr. Huang had said about avoiding suspicion, so she controlled her temper, obeyed her mother-in law and treated her like her own mother.

After six months had passed, the whole household had changed. Li Li had practiced controlling her temper so much that she found that she almost never got mad or upset. She hadn't any argument with her mother-in law in six months because she now seemed much kinder and easier to get along with. Her mother-in law's attitude towards Li Li had changed & she began to love Li Li like her own daughter. She kept telling friends & relatives that Li Li was the best daughter-in law. Li Li's husband was very happy.

One day, Li Li came to see Mr.Huang & asked for his help once again. She said, "Dear Mr.Huang, please help me to keep off the poison from killing my mother-in law. She's changed into such a nice woman and I love her. I do not want to die because of the poison I gave her. Mr. Huang smiled & hobbed his head. Li Li there's nothing to worry about. I never gave you any poison. The herbs I gave you were vitamins to improve her health. The only poison was in your mind & attitude towards her. But that has been all washed away by the love which you gave to her.

Have you realized that? 

How you treat others is exactly how they will treat you?

There is a Chinese saying, "The person who loves others will also be loved in return."

So love all & loved by all

Monday, December 13, 2010

LIFE :: have a look at it


Pencil: I'm sorry

Eraser: For what? You didn't do anything wrong.

Pencil: I'm sorry because you get hurt because of me. Whenever I made a mistake, you're always there to erase it. But as you make my mistakes vanish, you lose a part of yourself. You get smaller and smaller each time.

Eraser: That's true. But I don't really mind. You see, I was made to do this. I was made to help you whenever you do something wrong. Even though one day, I know I'll be gone and you'll replace me with a new one, I'm actually happy with my job. So please, stop worrying. I hate seeing you sad. 

I found this conversation between the pencil and the eraser very inspirational. Parents are like the eraser whereas their children are the pencil. They're always there for their children, cleaning up their mistakes. Sometimes along the way, they get hurt, and become smaller / older, and eventually pass on. Though their children will eventually find someone new (spouse), but parents are still happy with what they do for their children, and will always hate seeing their precious ones worrying, or sad. 

All my life, I've been the pencil. And it pains me to see the eraser that is my parents getting smaller and smaller each day. For I know that one day, all that I'm left with would be eraser shavings and memories of what I used to have. 

Broken Friendship


I gave it my all, I had to try,
and though I'm still around and you see me every now and again
soon you'll see... you've lost your best friend.

Friday, December 3, 2010

Mein do kadam chalta..............


मैं दो कदम चलता और एक पल को रुकता मगर.....
इस एक पल जिन्दगी मुझसे चार कदम आगे बढ जाती ।
मैं फिर दो कदम चलता और एक पल को रुकता और....
जिन्दगी फिर मुझसे चार कदम आगे बढ जाती ।
युँ ही जिन्दगी को जीतता देख मैं मुस्कुराता और....
जिन्दगी मेरी मुस्कुराहट पर हैंरान होती ।
ये सिलसिला यहीं चलता रहता.....
फिर एक दिन मुझे हंसता देख एक सितारे ने पुछा..........
" तुम हार कर भी मुस्कुराते हो ! क्या तुम्हें दुख नहीं होता हार का ? "
तब मैंनें कहा................मु
झे पता हैं एक ऐसी सरहद आयेगी जहाँ से आगेजिन्दगी चार कदम तो क्या एक कदम भी आगे ना बढ पायेगी,
तब जिन्दगी मेरा इन्तज़ार करेगी और मैं......
तब भी युँ ही चलता रुकता अपनी रफ्तार से अपनी धुन मैं वहाँ पहुँगा.......
एक पल रुक कर, जिन्दगी को देख कर मुस्कुराउगा..........
बीते सफर को एक नज़र देख अपने कदम फिर बढाँउगा।
ठीक उसी पल मैं जिन्दगी से जीत जाउगा.........
मैं अपनी हार पर भी मुस्कुराता था और अपनी जीत पर भी......
मगर जिन्दगी अपनी जीत पर भी ना मुस्कुरा पाई थी और अपनी हार पर भी ना रो पायेगी................................